HOW TO FLIRT

How to Flirt

Learning how to flirt should easy if you think about it. Since the starting of mankind, we have been flirting openly with one another.

Have you ever watched a documentary on the animal kingdom that looked into how animals court one another?

What do they do? They prance around, fluff their feathers, put on a show for their potential mate.

Flirting is a natural instinct in both humans and animals and ensures the survival of our species. Unfortunately most humans would rather die than perform any acts of sexuality or even flirtatious behaviour and most of us wouldn't know a flirting signal if it were to hit us in the head!

Why has something that is seemingly so natural become so hard?

Is it just too hard for us now to learn how to flirt, are we beyond the neanderthal approach in our sophisticated modern world we have created for ourselves, or is it the fear of making total fools of ourselves that stops us from taking the plunge?

The 4 Pillars of Flirting

For a good flirt these four qualities is must.

These are Attitude, Awareness, Flexibility and Intention.

Imagine you are making a movie and you are the writer, the actor, the director and editor of this movie.

You get to choose the direction and you also get to choose the ending. You get to choose what you focus on and this in turn sets the scene for you movie.

Now, if you were watching a bad TV show, you would change the channel, and just like changing the channel we can change our movie to what we want. Makes sense right?

So aside from external circumstances beyond out control, we can have control over our own movie.

We can control the attitude, the lines of our internal dialogue, our flexibility in the way we react, our awareness in what we focus on and our intention by directing the movie.

The only thing is we cannot control the other actors, the people we come across. We cannot stop people from not liking us or wanting to talk to us…or can we?

Remember what we believe about others affects how we treat them, and in turn, how they respond to us.